Are you feeling like giving up on your marriage but still want to try just one more time? In any marriage , there are many ups and downs, happy and sad moments, good and bad times. When faced with numerous problems, letting go may seem the easiest and probably best thing to do. However, it may not necessarily be the right decision. In fact, when you think of all the time you’ve invested into someone else (and perhaps little ones) plus your solemn promise, you may want to give another attempt at improving your marriage. Yes, this can be a bit difficult especially if your spouse is unwilling to commit to working things out, but it’s very possible.
What to do to save your marriage:
- Try to find out what went wrong
Could lack of communication be source of the problems in your marriage? Or are you having issues with compatibility due to changes in work, family or stress? Most relationships, as well as people, usually suffer from some flaws, and perhaps these flaws are preventing you from having a healthy marriage. Find some time alone and take a long, deep look at what might have gone wrong. If you’re able to identify the root causes of the crisis, then it will be loads easier to determine the most appropriate solutions.
- Detox your marriage
If you’re serious about rescuing your marriage, then it’s time you get rid of all the name-calling, blaming, and finger-pointing. Frequent, angry outbursts will only eat away the love & trust that you share as a couple. Instead of focusing on the “bad” about your spouse (for instance they ignore you or don’t bother to compliment you), take control of your feelings by finding out why their actions disturb you. Stop complaining and instead learn to express of how you crave their love and attention.
- Consider love infusions
Another tip is infuse the relationship with certain loving behaviors that can promote positive energy. In general, working on a relationship is challenging, particularly when you’re trying to save one in crisis. Love infusions can help lighten things between you and your spouse as well as add fun. Start expressing simple appreciations such as “thank you” when your spouse does something for you. It may seem very obvious, but it can go a long way in helping decrease the resentment while reinforcing positive behavior. Other effective love infusions include going out on date nights, find out what his secret obsession is and surprising them with simple gifts and showing caring behaviors.
- Seek out a marriage counselor
If your partner is willing, you may consider consulting a professional marriage counselor. Yes, it can be a bit expensive, but they can offer a highly nuanced (yet neutral) insight into the issues surrounding your relationship. A counselor can use his or her experience to help you and your spouse identify exactly what went wrong and guide you towards finding possible solutions. And because they have no skin in that game, the professional is less likely to cut corners, forget inconvenient facts or lie. Consulting a marriage counselor could very well rescue your marriage.